Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons, sometimes through the people we trust the most. One of the hardest things to deal with is when friends or loved ones walk out of your life without a valid reason. They leave you wondering what you did wrong, replaying every moment, and second-guessing yourself. And just when you’ve finally adjusted to their absence, they waltz back in, acting like they never left.
Why does this happen? Why do people who were once close to us disappear without explanation? Sometimes, it’s because they’re dealing with their own struggles—ones they might not have the courage to share. Other times, it’s simply because they took you for granted and thought you’d always be there, no matter how they treated you. Whatever the reason, the impact on you is undeniable.
Friendships and relationships are meant to be cherished. They’re supposed to be about mutual respect, loyalty, and care. But when someone ghosts you, it feels like they’ve disregarded all of that. The bond you thought was solid suddenly feels flimsy, leaving you hurt and confused.
And let’s not forget that “blood” doesn’t always mean “family.” Sometimes, the people you share DNA with can treat you worse than strangers. They can dismiss your feelings, neglect your needs, or even be the source of your deepest pain. But family isn’t always who you’re born into—it’s who shows up for you, who stands by you, and who values you for who you are.
So what do you do when someone who ghosted you suddenly comes back? The answer is personal and varies from situation to situation. You can choose to let them back in, but with boundaries. Or, you can decide that their absence gave you the clarity you needed—that you’re better off without them.
At the end of the day, the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. Never let someone’s decision to leave—or return—make you question your worth. True friends and family are those who don’t make you feel disposable, and when they show up, they show up fully, not just when it’s convenient for them.
Cherish the people who stand by you, even in your darkest moments, and never feel guilty for letting go of those who don’t. You deserve consistency, love, and respect, and it’s okay to demand that from the people in your life.